As an empath I sometimes suspect that I am a walking conundrum. Allow me to explain, for a moment. I absolutely thrive on fairly direct contradictions. There are times when I need to be around people. Trust me when I tell you I don’t use the word “need” lightly. There are times, when if I consider staying home for one more moment, the house might simply suffocate me. There are other times when, if I’m around people anymore the concept that I might lose who I am becomes very clear and very real to me. This is part of the reason I attempt to live my life in balance in every area. Too much of anything does not work well for a person like me. I’m easily burned out on repetition and love variety. This is a concept that spreads over every area of my life. My origins in helping people stem back from drug and alcohol treatment centers. One of the re-occurring themes that I focused on giving other people was the need for balance. Not just balance in one area, but balance in every area possible. My premise is the more balanced our lives are, the less likely it is that something can come along and knock us off kilter.
My suggestions for creating balance in your life include:
- Give Up Multi-tasking: For the average human brain, multi-tasking is a myth. The average brain is not capable of maintaining dual focus. Let’s try an experiment: hum your favorite silly song in your head (which ever one comes to mind) and while humming that silly song, count backwards from 100. The average human brain is not capable of doing both, because it is not equipped to maintain dual focus.
- Prioritize: In the world we live in, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with things to do. I typically begin with prioritizing what is the most important, then what it the next level of importance and so on.
- Disconnect: I had been hearing for a while the importance of disconnecting from social media. Recently, I created an opportunity for myself to engage in this. The results were phenomenal! I was actually able to come back to social media and not feel resentful, jealous, or anxious. It was so cleansing and empowering.
- Meditate: As I have been saying recently in many of my blogs, I am absolutely loving the 57 second meditation clarity. In 57 seconds I can rejuvenate my mind and body. Who doesn’t have 57 seconds to spare on any given day? I’m sure most people spend significantly more time than this scrolling social media.
- Spend some time alone: Many years ago, I was taught to take one night a week all to myself. These nights were not allowed to be spent cleaning, paying bills, laundry or anything else. These nights were simply intended for me to check out emotionally and mentally. It’s the equivalent of me filling up my own inner cup, which is so necessary.
- Socialize: Even if you live alone, and have no local friends, this is still a crucial concept. For those people who meet the already given criteria, I typically recommend they go to a bookstore or a coffee shop. Just immersing themselves in the energy of people many times can be a game changer.
- Take an inventory: Every business that successfully operates takes an inventory. They evaluate what they are selling well and what’s not selling well. At no time does this business engage in beating themselves up over it. Can you even imagine a grocery store beating themselves up because they are out of organic toothpaste? I encourage people to take an accurate inventory of: what they are doing well, what they want to improve at, and what their strengths are.
- Nutrition and Hydration: Let’s be honest. If a body is well nourished and well hydrated what impact do you think stress is going to have on it? Now imagine the reverse, that a body is dehydrated (for example) and is under stress. Does it not make sense that this will trigger more stress in this particular body? Make hydrating and nourishing your body one of your top priorities and everything else will fall into place.
Like so many things in life, there is no one size fits all formula here. What works for me may need tweaking when you apply it in your own life. I would encourage you to explore the concepts of balance in your own life. The most effective way of establishing balance is by exploring the highs and lows.
Jenn Bovee, LCSW is a spiritual life coach and psychotherapist. Jenn offers in person and distance life coaching services. You can learn more about Jenn here: www.JennBoveeLCSW.com