I had a pretty significant aha moment recently. I had a PICC line installed a few weeks ago, and it is absolutely not without complications. This is specifically because I am allergic to latex and adhesive.
So on that day, I woke up having some complications, and I was really just struggling with this stuff. Have you ever had one of those days? I think no matter how much we aim to see the positive in all things, sometimes life can knock us off kilter. This is because we are all human! I’m a big fan of feeling and honoring our feelings and experiences when they occur, even when they are negative or uncomfortable.
But, and this is important: we don’t want to live there. If someone hurts my feelings or betrays my trust, my typical response is to stop and honor my responses. I strive to empower the people I work with to experience their feelings and emotions and move on. I can’t tell you how many people have told me they don’t know how to move on, though.
Below are some of the ways in which I change my focus:
Be Grateful: I love focusing on gratitude. The key for me is that I want to be grateful for every experience; the positive ones and the less than spectacular ones. I’m always on the lookout for ways to up my gratitude game. Currently, I do the following for monitoring my gratitude: Every evening at bedtime my husband and I express 5 things we are grateful for that happened in our day, I write out things I am grateful for most mornings, and I use an app on my phone to track my grateful experiences.
Change the Channel: Literally look for something that you consider beautiful. Go outside to look at some fresh flowers, google rainbows on the internet, watch Youtube videos of babies laughing or something else funny. Make the decision to look at things that bring you joy.
Clean something: One of the best mechanisms to change our focus is to clean something. I absolutely love decluttering and find it very therapeutic. Growing up, my best friends mom moved their furniture three or four times a week. I absolutely loved it because it never had an opportunity to collect dust.
Get out of your own head: Check on someone else. Do something kind for someone else without getting caught. Many years ago when I worked with other people, on holidays I would put something nice in everyone’s mailboxes, including mine, which gave me the ability to deny that it was me. I absolutely loved doing that!
Meditate: I instruct my clients to spend some time clearing their mind of all the clutter as a way to reset and rejuvenate their day, which is especially beneficial when the negative emotions are getting the best of them.
I hope you find these tips helpful. The next time you find yourself living in an event that has happened, or you’re having a hard time lifting the funk of a bad mood, give these techniques a try and let me know how it worked for you.
What techniques do you use to change your focus?