Is Your Personality Wired For Burnout?
Sometimes, it’s not the situations around you. But it’s actually YOU.
You might literally be hardwired for burnout.
That doesn’t have to mean that, if you are, that you’re doomed to live that life. It means you might have to make a few adjustments here and there to avoid it, to ease it, to disconnect from it...also... how you can EMBRACE it to its fullest potential.
Yes! You can EMBRACE burnout just as much as you can embrace anything about you. And when you embrace these parts of you, you allow them to become part of what makes you UNSTOPPABLE.
Let’s take a look at the personality traits that could indicate whether or not you are one of the burnout prone (like me ;) ):
Perfectionism: While always wanting to do your best can be a great sign of dedication and a hard worker, it can also come at a pretty hefty price.
However, people who struggle with perfectionism can set themselves up with a ton of stress and exhaustion...and it can become absolutely crippling.
Perfectionism also easily leads to people chasing their tails and not getting much accomplished. Which quickly feels very thankless.
If you find yourself struggling with perfectionism, CONGRATS! You’re one of us! SMILE and appreciate that about you.
Pessimism: Pessimists are more focused on the negative than most people are.
The reason burnout is more likely for a pessimist than an optimist is because they are already worrying about what could or might go wrong, they expect more bad things than they do good things, and they have less overall belief in themselves and their abilities.
Every day pessimist cause themselves increase their risk of burnout by increasing the amount of stress and pressure that they are under.
So, if you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop, seeing the glass half empty, or never looking for the silver lining...CONGRATS! You, too, are one of us who are likely wired for burnout.
Lack of Self Worth: People who lack self worth are just going to need or desire more validation that those people who have high levels of self worth.
And when our baseline of self worth is inherently lower, it sets our personality up to be wired for burn out.
Often times, people who have lower self worth have substantial amounts of doubt in their own abilities. Because they don’t see the inherent value and worthiness aligned with the effort and energy they put into things this sets them up to experience burnout on a higher level than others.
When we have higher amounts of self-worth, we tend to accept less unacceptable behavior and interactions and set healthy and effective standards for ourselves.
So! If you don’t feel so good about yourself and are at the mercy of burnout, WELCOME to our club!
Poor Boundaries: When we have boundaries that are too loose or no boundaries at all, it sets us up for people to take advantage of us.
It also typically means that we don’t set limits on how much work or pressure we will allow ourselves to be subjected to.
Having little to no boundaries with co-workers, supervisors, clients, or others steals prime time and energy, and blocks us from our optimal productivity and effectiveness. Over time, your stress get’s maximized and processed as “less urgent.”
Hi and welcome to the Burnout Club! Remember, I said we’re EMBRACING who we are!
Attempting To Be All Things To All People: Many people who are working in helping professions, are naturally wired or trained to attempt to be all things to all people. Those key careers are usually: therapists, teachers, nurses, paramedics, police, fire fighters, and EMT.
When our profession ingrains in us that we are supposed to be available or help all people it bleeds over to our personal life. It becomes more and more of a challenge to set boundaries and to not help all of the people in our personal life, which sets us up for more burn out.
Givers: When people are naturally predominantly givers they tend to surround themselves with people who are naturally takers.
When you are constantly giving to people to friends, to family, to children, to employers, to employees it leads a blazing trail to burn out. When your default is to give it doesn’t leave a lot of time for self-preservation...which just breeds burn out.
Also when you are a giver, you likely don’t have a solid foundation of self-care. Without boundaries and limits, givers are quickly depleted and taken advantage of.
Yet, you are welcome into the Burnout Club! Embrace it!!
Empathy: People whose primary default is empathy tend to want to see the best in people (which is an amazing skill set). However, that also sets them up to have more frustration and resentment when people don’t live up to the potential they see in them.
When people have tons of empathy it translates into compassion easily and they can become a chronic do-er. It’s easy to become a bit of a martyr because at some point you end up being the “only one” doing some things.
And you have to embrace that!
Now that you know where you stand on burnout and your tendency for it, I have to say, it’s not a bad thing. As I mentioned, we can learn to embrace those parts of us and our penchant for burnout, itself, so that we are ignited and untethered to live a life that feels exactly the way we want it to!
And if you’re ready to free yourself from all of this and the shame, guilt, or anxiety that comes with it, so you can begin to live and love the way that lights you on fire and makes you feel like you own the world, let’s connect, dear burnout friend!
I, as a three-business business owner/bonus mom/and chronic illness champion (yes, I said champion!), am here to help you unlock all that you want so you feel good enough to have it all, too.